This story is about how words from the past can live in the body for years... And how very old wounds can be heald.
She is 54 years old. One of her main reasons for coming to therapy sounded simple — and painfully familiar to many:
“I can’t seem to realize myself.”
Behind these words was a deep sense of inner blockage — as if something important had always been just out of reach.
As our work unfolded, the roots of this feeling slowly became clearer.
Throughout her childhood and youth, her mother often criticized her, diminished her efforts, and “cut her wings.”
One particular moment stayed with her for decades.
After completing her training and receiving a diploma as a cook, she came home full of joy and excitement. She shared her plans with her mother:
“I want to become a doctor. I’m going to apply to university.”
Her mother’s response was crushing:
“You won’t succeed. You’re not smart enough to become a doctor. Don’t even try.”
When we began working with this memory using EMDR, the emotional pain at the start of the session was intense — 6 out of 10. She described it as icy, sharp needles in her heart.
This wasn’t just a memory. It was a bodily experience that had lived inside her for decades.
As the session continued, something began to shift.
At one point she paused and said quietly:
“I feel like someone is hugging me. It creates warmth in my chest now… the needles are melting. The pain isn’t completely gone yet, but iI feel much better.”
We continued.
At the end of the session, she said words that truly stay in the heart:
“The pain is gone. Completely gone.”
This didn’t mean the past disappeared. But it no longer hurt.
What once became an inner prohibition — against dreaming, trying, believing in herself — lost its power.
There was space... warmth... a sense of inner support.
This story is about how words from the past can live in the body for years.
And about how even very old wounds can heal when they are met with care, respect, and compassion.
Sometimes the path to self-realization doesn’t begin with new goals,
but with freeing the heart from words that no longer have the right to shape our lives.
If you are ready to take the next step, you are welcome to book a consultation .
